While men are familiar with their own sensual fantasies, they may not know much about their female partners’ mental tristes. Some men may assume, consciously or unconsciously, that most women don’t have sensual fantasies, as society pretends that sensual activity is predominantly a male preoccupation. To the contrary, most women experience fantasies, and men would do well to become familiar with their partners’ in the interest of promoting greater sensual health and enjoyment. This will give them the opportunity to incorporate elements of a woman’s sensual thoughts into playtime, and possibly find some overlapping fantasies for both to revel in.

The following information comes from the results of a 2014 survey of over 1,500 women in Quebec. Note: Men should never assume a woman has a fantasy or think that she should have it. Getting to know one’s partner’s unique hot buttons is imperative. The following only offers some idea of what one might be in for.

Different locations

Location turns out to be a crucial aspect in women’s sensual fantasies – at least among those surveyed, with 86.4% reporting that location along with atmosphere are important in their fantasies, and 81.7 said they fantasize about sensual activity in an “unusual” location (such as the office or a bathroom stall). A little over half – 57.3% -- fantasize about sensual activity specifically in a public place, out in the open.

Now, it’s important to be cautious when selecting a location. Due to public indecency laws, consent morality and more practical concerns like losing one’s job, a couple can’t just have sensual activity wherever they may want. Also keep in mind that the presence of a fantasy doesn’t mean a person actually wants to fulfill it. But a couple can find ways to engage these fantasies safely and ethically – for example, they may pretend they are in public and entertain some dirty talk about being watched, or they may find consenting individuals to watch them in the act or view a video of it. They could also engage in sensual activity in a slightly less unusual, but still atypical, location, such as the kitchen instead of the bedroom.

Oral sensual activity

While a man should certainly not assume all or even most women want to spend tons of time going down on men, the survey did show a high level of fantasy around providing oral sensual activity, with 72.1% experiencing such fantasies. More – 78.5% – answered yes to the more broadly-framed “I have fantasized about taking part in” oral on a man or woman.

Men should ask women how they feel about providing oral. Some are fine with it, so long as it doesn’t take over sensual activity, and/or it is reciprocated. Some are more enthusiastic about it, and may fantasize about performing it in certain positions, or with added kinky elements, such as having their hair pulled and heads directed if submission is their thing. Women with a dominant streak may prefer having complete control and participating in kinks like release control and denial.

Manual play

Many survey participants reported fantasizing about being manually stimulated by a partner (71.4%) and manually stimulating a partner (68.1%). This suggests that, for many women, manual play, both received and administered, is a desirable aspect of sensual activity.

Fortunately, it’s easy to incorporate! Manual play, whether one-at-a-time or mutual, is a great way to pleasure one’s partner while learning more about his or her body. It can add a level of intimacy and pleasure to sensual activity that may be lacking without it. So get those hands busy.

Men who are taking steps to improve their sensual lives should, of course, not neglect the part of their body most affiliated with the act. Manhood upkeep is imperative to keeping the member in peak form both aesthetically and functionally. Along with regular washing, frequent use and wearing protection, men can go the extra mile by incorporating a male organ health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) into their care regimens. Keeping the manhood moisturized will protect it against chafing from friction and promote the maintenance of high sensitivity levels in the long run. Better member health means better sensual activity, and is worth the investment.

Visit http://www.menshealthfirst.com for additional information on most common male organ health issues, tips on improving organ sensitivity and what to do to maintain a healthy member. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous websites.