Are you in a relationship right now? If you are to rate how happy you are with your current beau in a scale of 1-10, being 10 is the highest, what will be your answer? Will it be 10? If you answered the measures 1-3 maybe you are in a toxic relationship. A friend of mine once shared to me, "At first I was very glad to know that my boyfriend cares for me a lot. He will frequently send me a message or call me up to check where am I and who am I with. But it really freaked me out one day that he is jealous even from my male family members like my dad. He asked me to delete their numbers from my mobile phone. " My friend really felt so turned off about her guy's attitude that she decided to end up their relationship. She felt so toxic that it had covered all the feelings she had for him for years. Have you ever felt this way in a relationship, too? Have you had or ever been in a toxic relationship in the past?

A toxic person is the kind of partner that will surely drain your patience. He or she can make you feel annoyed and sick because of his or her attitude. Being stuck with this kind of toxic relationship won't and will not ever give you an assurance that you'll get joy and security. It will also mean that you will not grow as a fruitful person because toxic relationship is suffocating and uncandid. So who would want to be tangled in this kind of connection? I would not want to and neither would any human being with a sound mind will say yes.

Of course you cannot easily unmask what character your relationship possesses during couple of days or months. It is until time has told you through situations and actions of your current partner. So here are some points that can help you ascertain if you are in a toxic relationship.

First, does your partner makes you feel small about yourself and removes your dignity by yelling at you even in a crowd? One teenage boy confides, "My girlfriend with her classmates around shouted at me angrily because I accidentally spilled my soda on her sneakers. I know that there is a reason to be mad but everyone eyed on me and gave me a smug on their faces. Even if she said how sorry she was, it made me think if she really loves me. " A person that frequently embarrasses you even if you two are alone is a sign that you are not in a healthy relationship.

Another fact is, if there are moments that you wonder if your partner really loves you even if h/she hundred times would tell you that h/she loves you back but you doubt it because it is not shown in her actions. So ask yourself, how does my boy or my girl treat me, if we are in public? And what treatment do I get if there are no eyes around?

A further question is, does trust work in our relationship? A text or call to check you out shows that your loved one cares about you. Unless he hired a guard or an agent to look after you wherever and whenever you go out. A relationship that had gained no trust form both parties is not worth keeping, is it?

Third clue to bear in mind is when your spouse or partner shows selfishness by means of restraining your chance to be more productive and independent person in all aspects. Take for example, your man would not let you do a hobby, watch a movie or join an organization just because he has no interest in it. Remember, a strong bond in a relationship is created when you work together.

Next is, if your partner makes you physically and mentally exhausted with all of his or her unpredictable attitude and mood swings that you usually end up like a shrunken orange fruit with no juice at all because you gave up all your energy in trying to please your boyfriend or girlfriend.

Lastly, you have a toxic lover if that person tries to change you from someone who you're really not. Does your partner makes you feel as if you need an overhaul? It is not totally wrong if your lover is just teaching you how to dress up but it would be totally annoying if you are not comfortable with what you wear and you feel completely idiot.