What do we look for in a lifetime? One friend of mine put it so simply when we were in our late 20s. She said, "I just want to make money and be happy." She makes money, and while we have lost touch, I believe she likes her life. But what is happiness? For me there is a simple index. I measure it by this: when I wake up in the morning, do I want to do my life? This is a floating indicator, and sometimes it is a pretty complex chord of emotions, with some deep, dark notes, like when my brother died, but my nephew got married to a wonderful person the very next day. The entire spectrum from sorrow to joy was in play for that entire Thanksgiving weekend. But I was not unhappy. I could see a bright future evolving, even though it would not include my brother. So there were future goals I could achieve.
When my friend would look at a project or an adventure she would use an index she called the "hassle factor". This is fairly self explanatory, it is an assessment of will it be more fun than trouble. This can be a very individual measure, if you are a nine year old kid, is it worth it to build a tree fort? Well, for me the answer was yes! And the fort the girls but was just so cool..., too many stories! Anyway, the important thing is that life is meant to be enjoyed. Kindness to one another is not a chore; it is good for everyone all around. We all have a much better world when we get up in the morning and want to do our life. Just smiling makes oneself and others feel good. Especially valuable in this time of Coronavirus. Regarding happiness, L. Ron Hubbard says,"True joy and happiness are valuable." www.thewaytohappiness.org @waytohappinesstampa