The irrefutable truth is that we cannot change a comfortable, loving-to-sleep (but waking-up-all-night) history to a go-to-sleep- and-stay-asleep-on-your-own routine without one of two things:

Crying or time. Personally, I choose time. And this means patience and might just represent your first opportunity to teach that particular virtue to your child

My new sleep plan will not take five years to produce the desired effect!

The Test Mommies’ Experiences It really does help to know what other parents have experienced. The following is what a few of the test mommies had to say.
Lisa, a mother of two girls, ages one and five both with sleep
Problems said in her first letter to me:

I co-slept with Donna , our five-year-old, until she was about a year old, at which time we tried to move her to her own bed. Since that time, she comes into our room EVERY night. Yes, every night for the past four years! Our baby Joanna . . . well, at age one she is still getting
up three to five times a night. I feel extreme anxiety. During the night, I hear the minutes ticking away on the clock that sits on my night stand, waiting for one or the other to call for me, and with each minute everything seems to intensify. I often just break down and cry. As I sit here this morning with my coffee next to me, things don’t seem quite SO bleak, but I have to admit that I still feel like crying. I just can’t do this anymore. HELP.

What Is a Sleep Problem?

During the first year of life, a baby wakes up frequently during the night
. As you have now learned, this is not a problem. It is a biological fact. The problem lies in our perceptions of how a baby should sleep and in our own needs for an uninterrupted night’s sleep. We parents want and need our long stretches of sleep to function at our best in our busy lives. The idea then is to slowly, respectfully, and carefully change our baby’s behavior to match our
own needs more closely.

How Much Sleep Do Babies Need?

all babies are different, and some truly do need less (or more) sleep than shown here, but the
vast majority of babies have similar sleep needs. If your baby is not getting close to the amount of sleep on this chart, he may be chronically overtired—and this will affect the quality and length of both his nap and nighttime sleep. Your baby may not seem tired,because overtired babies (and children) don’t always act tired at least not in the ways we expect. Instead, they may be clingy,hyperactive, whiny, or fussy. They may also resist sleep, not under-
standing that sleep is what they really need.


Part One: Solutions for Newborn Babies Birth to Four Months

Congratulations on the birth of your new baby. This is a glorious time in your life. Whether this is your first baby or your fifth, you will find this a time of recovery, adjustment, sometimes
confusion and frustration, but most wonderfully of falling in love.

Newborn babies do not have sleep problems, but their parents do. Newborns sleep when they are tired, and wake when they are ready. If their schedule conflicts with yours, it’s not a problem for them; they don’t even know it.


Follow these steps each time you sit to feed your new baby:
• Relax.
• Breathe slowly.
• Push your shoulders down, and relax them. (Mothers tend
to raise their shoulders during feeding, especially during the
first few months. When your shoulders are up around your
ears somewhere, this creates muscle tension in your arms,
shoulders, and neck.)
• Circle your head to work out the stress.
• Enjoy a few minutes of peaceful baby time; take advantage
of this opportunity to gaze at your precious little one. Start
making memories.
• Read, if you enjoy it. (Or read to your baby.)
• Watch television or a movie, or listen to music, if any of
those things relax you.

Part Two: Solutions for Older Babies Four Months to Two Years

In the course of my research and in my own experience, I have discovered that our own emotions often hold us back from making changes in our babies’ sleeping habits. You yourself may be the very obstacle preventing you from changing a routine that disrupts your life in this case, your baby’s sleep habits. After all, you probably wouldn’t be reading this book unless you find your baby’s sleep routine difficult to mesh with your own life. So let’s figure out if anything is standing in your way.

Develop a Bedtime Routine This idea may help everyone.
A bedtime routine becomes your baby’s signal that bedtime is
here. It invokes a conditioned response from baby: “Oh! It’s bedtime! I should be sleepy!”

A routine for the hour before bedtime is crucial in cueing and
preparing your baby for sleep. Include any of the following that
you enjoy and that help soothe and quiet your baby:

• Giving Baby a warm, calm bath
• Massaging
• Reading books
• Singing songs
• Playing soft music
• Taking a walk
• Rocking
• Breastfeeding
• Bottle-feeding
The hour before bed should be peaceful. Your routine should
be done in rooms with dim lights. Your last step should end in the
quiet, dark bedroom with little talking and your usual go-to-sleep
technique. Write down your routine, and make it very specific.
A sample bedtime routine would look like this:
1. 7:00 p.m.—Bath
2. Massage with baby lotion
3. Put on pajamas
4. Read three books
5. Lights out
6. Sing lullaby
7. Breastfeed or bottle-feed
8. Rub back
9. Sleep

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