“Sensual relations” in terms of partners typically refers to coupling, but the truth is that it can encompass much more, including mutual self-pleasuring. For the adventurous couple, mutual self-pleasuring can be an excellent way to expand their sensual horizons (especially when they keep in mind appropriate female and male organ care). Sometimes, however the experience may be more mutual than other times.

Coming to terms
While it may seem that defining mutual self-pleasuring should be easy, the fact is that not everyone would agree on its definition. For example, many people would agree that mutual self-pleasuring could mean two people engaged in sensual relations in which one is actively pleasuring the other while simultaneously being manually stimulated by the partner. (And, of course, this definition could also apply to such a shared activity between more than two people.)

However, suppose the self-pleasuring is not simultaneous, but serial? That is to say, “person one” manually stimulates “person two” until release, then person two returns the favor for person one? To some, this might not meet their definition of mutual self-pleasuring.

Similarly, there can be a situation in which person one self-gratifies while person two simultaneously self-gratifies. Or a situation may arise in which a man self-pleasures to completion while his partner watches, then in turn he watches as his partner pleasures herself.

To some, each of these instances would qualify as mutual self-pleasuring, while to others only one or some would.

Unequal effort
The above examples deal with situations in which the definition is in question. More problematic are situations in which the effort going into the self-pleasuring is not quite as mutual as it might be. For example:

• Tired out. One partner may be brought to release quickly by the other, achieving a state of great satisfaction. However, the sated partner may then profess to be a bit tired or to have a sore hand and may suggest the still-enticed partner bring about a release on his or her own.

• Roughing it. On occasion, one partner may not know the appropriate way to handle the other partner. A woman may pound relentlessly on a tool, gripping far too tightly and not using any lubrication. Conversely, a man may rush his fingers into a woman without properly preparing the way or may rub in an aggressive, unpleasant manner that causes soreness rather than sensual sensations.

• Too nice and easy. Of course, the reverse can also be true. A person may handle the other's equipment too gingerly. A gentle touch is nice, but a certain amount of friction is needed, especially where men are concerned.

• A bit of waffling. And on occasion, a partner may go back and forth between deciding whether mutual self-pleasuring is right for them or not. There's nothing wrong with changing one's mind, of course, but a partner can still get frustrated in such a situation.

If a couple is good at communication, these issues can easily be resolved by telling the other partner what feels good or discussing the best way that the couple should proceed.

Whether considering mutual self-pleasuring, coupling, oral activity or another option, a man wants to be sure that his equipment is in its best health for the activity, which is where regular use of a superior male organ health cream (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) comes into play. A roughly-handled manhood may have lost some sensation, and a cream that includes a top-drawer neuroprotective ingredient like acetyl L-carnitine may be just the ticket for restoring that lost sensation. It also helps to use a cream with L-arginine, which is an aid to nitric oxide production and the subsequent relaxation of member blood vessels that it encourages. Keeping the organ in tip-top health is a boon to any man – and his partner.