It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that self-pleasuring is typically a solo activity. Sure, there are exceptions, but most men’s (and women’s) self-fondling time is spent alone. But there’s no rule against sharing self-stimulating activities with a partner, especially if that partner is willing to join in and fondle themselves as well. When a guy practices proper male organ care, his member is in very presentable shape and can join in a mutual self-pleasuring session with no worry about how he looks. But changing the solo activity into a duet can take some preparation.

This assumes, of course, that a man is interested in mutual self-pleasuring with a person with this partner in an existing relationship (whether of sensual exclusivity or not). There are some other situations in which a man can self-gratify openly with another person (or persons) who are essentially strangers. For example, many self-pleasuring clubs exist, some catering to men only, some to both male and female participants. In such situations, the only preparation that is required is for the man to locate such a club and find out its meeting places, times and rules.

A partner

But assuming a man is talking about self-gratifying in tandem with a recognized partner, the situation may require some forethought. Here are some things to consider before asking a partner to join in a stoke- or rub-fest.

• Has self-pleasuring been mentioned before? In the relationship, have either one of the participants ever brought up the subject, even in a playful way? If so, what was said and what kind of response did it evoke? If it has not been mentioned, is that significant, or is it merely that the subject never arose?

• What kind of sensual views does the partner have? Sometimes (although not always) a guy can make a pretty good guess about how his partner feels about self-pleasuring based on their embracing or rejecting of other sensual matters. For example, a partner who rips their clothes off when coupling is proposed and jumps on the bed growling may be more open to the idea of mutual self-pleasuring than a partner who insists on turning all the lights off before disrobing.

• How touchy-feely is the partner where sensual organs are concerned? Is coupling typically all about penetration (or perhaps all about oral sensual activity), or do the participants already fondle each other’s organs in the course of their sensual fun?

Assuming that the answers to these questions indicate a likely willingness or interest in a self-pleasuring duet, the man may want to move forward – although still with caution if he is unsure of how the partner might respond.

Each couple is different, so there is no hard and fast rule as to whether to approach the subject jokingly, seriously, playfully, etc. Whatever approach is made, a guy should be prepared for some negative reactions.

For example, a partner may find the idea distasteful. If so, this will hopefully be expressed in a sensitive manner.

Similarly, some partners may mistakenly believe that a guy is suggesting this approach because he doesn’t find the couple’s current sensual activities satisfying. The man should firmly reassure the partner that this is not the case and that he is simply looking to explore new ways of sharing their sensual selves.

Hopefully, the partner will respond that they are quite happy to make the heretofore solo self-pleasuring experience into a dual endeavor. In that case, a guy definitely want to make sure he has been keeping his manhood healthy by using a first class male organ health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin). Attractive manhood skin is a must, so find a crème that can keep it well moisturized via ingredients like Shea butter and vitamin E. It also pays to select a crème with vitamin C, a key component of the collagen that gives male organ skin its tone and elasticity. A good looking member makes a man proud.

Visit http://www.menshealthfirst.com for additional information on most common manhood health issues, tips on improving member sensitivity and what to do to maintain a healthy male organ. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous websites.