Some men have an unfortunate misconception that can cause a feeling of insecurity or even frustration in the bedroom: Women should release from penetration alone. According to the available research, this occurs in only about a quarter of women. Most require external stimulation in order to reach the big finish. Along with not pressuring oneself to get her there – and, of course, not pressuring her to get there – men can inform themselves on things they can do in bed to increase her enjoyment. Combining certain positions with external stimulation may not only bring her to release, but make the pleasure even more explosive. Since coupling is an important component of male organ health, a man will be doing himself a favor as well. Consider the following to encourage a female release.

1. Learn about her other pleasure zones. While most men know that women tend to enjoy coupling even if it doesn’t result in release, they may not realize that there are areas within the female organ beyond the G-spot that can deliver great pleasure. And for some men, the G-spot itself is a mystery. Let’s learn more about each pleasure zone.

The G-spot is located 1-3” within the female organ on the anterior wall. Its sensitivity varies from woman to woman, but it is generally recognized as a common erogenous zone within the female organ. There are two more pleasure spots called the anterior and posterior fornices. The posterior fornix is located above and behind the cervix, while the anterior fornix is above and in front of the cervix. Some women go wild when one of these areas is stimulated, but it’s important to ensure that one’s partner is such a woman before thrusting deep. Some women find cervical stimulation painful, and therefore do not enjoy this move.

2. Learn how to stimulate the posterior fornix. How can a man tell if a female partner likes posterior fornix stimulation? A good indicator is if she gravitates toward from-behind positions and deep thrusts. A man can feel his tip slide past the cervix; this is when he’s in contact with the posterior fornix.

To encourage an intense release by stimulating this area, a man should make sure he or his partner is able to manually stimulate her external area at the same time. He may be able to do this with his hand in standard or standing doggie style positions (unless the couple prefers these positions with the woman’s thighs squeezed tightly together, in which case it may be possible but a bit more difficult). They can also try the spooning position with her knees spread apart – this affords either partner easy access to the outer zone.

3. Learn how to stimulate the anterior fornix. If a woman loves deep-penetration missionary, she’s likely a fan of anterior fornix stimulation. A man can simply lift his body away from her enough to leave room for her hand; the couple may also place a soft vibrating object between their bodies in this position, providing stimulation for both.

4. Learn how to stimulate the G-spot. There are many positions that facilitate both G-spot and external contact, including:

• Woman-on-top, leaning back slightly
• Reverse cowgirl
• Doggie style with shallow thrusts
• Modified missionary with pillows beneath her rear, her knees bent and feet on his chest

Once a man has learned more about what his partner likes, he can incorporate both internal and external stimulation into the mix for more enjoyable coupling, and possibly for more female releases. Along with this education, a man must make sure to keep his male organ in good condition. A male organ health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) with L-arginine for healthy blood flow and Shea butter for soft, supple skin is a good choice. Apply daily after a shower and see how it feels.