Do you feel sometimes that whatever you do part of life is always empty. You feel continuously unsatisfyied and even sad or depressed without clear explanation. We all use different types of tricks to keep us busy and calm down those feelings.However the gap is still there.

Putting aside a depression that will required medical support,and I encourage you look for support in this case- often the fact is that you are not living fully your life, you are not doing what you should be doing, your potential is wasted .

Oppositely we feel present in our life, when our inner qualities are fully used aligned with our lifestyle.Personal development describes it Happiness.

Finding your voice coupled with your hidden qualities bring us actually closer to Hapiness . Because it helps us make more informed decisions from all the right angles- with power and with purpose. This produces core assets, strengths, motivation and your step towards living a life of clarity and purpose.

How do I discover these hidden qualities?

Avoid living in the shadow of someone else’s voice. It can undermine the discovery of your hidden qualities. Often those shadows have credibility especially from our families, friends but it could be useful to identify what is you from what is them.
Self- Examination and Self Reflection: creation a space for yourself
Although self- examination is often overlooked in African communities because as for our mothers, aunties, sisters we believe that always being in action, helping, serving, looking after someone’s else needs is the priority. Yet the ability to think and reflect on ourself , our past experiences is the antidote to alleviating our anxieties, emptiness; taking us steps closer to discovering our hidden qualities.

To begin, assess the positive experiences and events, ask what attributes you have demonstrated that made the event enjoyable. For not so nice events, ask yourself, what qualities allowed you to overcome these events? And of course, for neutral happenstances, explore the question of what qualities could I have shown to re-energise myself? These questions will allow you to discover the roots and origins of your values and strengths. However, be aware that when you ask these questions, please practise compassion and handle yourself with care.



Explore your comfort zone :
After the above you may have discovered some of your attributes which can be : decision making, discipline, creativity, perseverance and patience. How much of those do you use in your daily life at work or at home? More your actions will be relied on your natural qualities, more aligned you will be and so happier..

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Setting great goals

Remember, your goals are whatever you make it. However, as a guide, they should always include, attached to your values and qualities. I always found that goals who are a great mix of expertise and passion tend to be more actionable, exciting and achieved easier.



Although because of this clarity based on your discovered traits, when you go off track to settle back quicker and in a more health way because the reference, the rock is within yourself.



Image Transformation

Image transformation is rooted in implementing how you view yourself through visualising your new, and ideal self against your current self and assessing your old self.

I called it EXPECTATION, you want to dress the way you will expect the future you to be dressed.

The nexus between your old, current and ideal self will allow you to develop new established thoughts and get rid of negative emotions and energy that could try to undermine the ideal self that you are visualising to become. To develop this image transformation successfully your inner qualities couple with an understanding of your natural physical traits must be aligned.