Going against the tide is no easy task but alas, it is much, MUCH, better than going with the flow the wrong way.

How does your ideal day unfold?

Actually, forget that. How does your ideal life unfold?

What colour is it? What texture does it have? What fragrant smells and what delicious tastes does it diffuse? What music does it play? Where does it start and where does it end? What oceans and lands are you going to cross in your ideal life? What amazing things are you going to create with your hands and with your brilliant mind? What, if anything, are you just pining to do with your life?

Have you ever asked yourself these questions? Gosh, if only I knew then what I know now! I wondered if happiness could be in what we do every day - even every hour (dare I even aim that high?) - And not just on vacations and weekends. You felt like you did not know exactly what you want; you did not want the misery of working in a field that you did not love and with people that you did not belong. To say that you were lost and confused is an under-statement.

The common advice that does not work for the uncommon mind:

Guess what kind of advice one would get from friends, family, peers and colleagues and on occasion, the opinionated stranger-, we know they had the best of intentions; but it’s just that you feel you looked for those pivotal answers in the wrong places. The true answers always come from within us and often we are not mature enough to know how to look deep in our heart and soul.

Well, it’s a job that pays well and you did study engineering after all.

Can you just wait and see what happens?

Why can’t you just be grateful?

Have you seen how badly the economy is doing lately especially after the Internet bust?

Others would give anything to have your job (good for them!) You have time, lots and lots of time to do what you want later. How brutal is that? To never grow old and to never experience the full circle of life? To be robbed of the one thing that is supposedly promised to us for a long while.



And you really wish someone had told you that it is ok to give it all up and that we are not bound for the rest of our days to our majors from college or to the subject of our Master’s. You wish someone had pointed that a corporate career was a joke and that none of what you did and did so well resonated with who you were - who you always have been - and that greed does not lead to bliss. You wish someone had told you that being miserable now so that you are potentially “happy” later is not a bad formula for living, period.

The undeniable fact of life - or your life anyway - has been that the more you invest in something, the more you want to invest in it. Pulling out is scary business and it only gets harder with time and with effort. That is why most people are willing to put up with more over time. You probably would not have put up with a lot of nonsense in the first year of your career but after 5 or 10 years of investing in it, it takes a lot more to make you walk away. The more you build something, the harder it is to let it go. Relationships suffer from the same phenomena; people tend to stay in those relationships that no longer serve them. It is hard to break the chains of habit and we human beings are creatures of habits. Listen, I we adore our habits and find a world of comfort in them.

But alas, at some point in life - maybe after a special birthday or maybe after your first grey hair (who knows?) - The time comes to stop making the easy decisions and start making the right decisions. You need to stop blaming others. You need to stop coming up with excuses or justifications. You may choose to stay on a path that does not necessarily make you happy because the return on that investment in your life is worth the trouble. Or you may choose to take a drastic measure and change your life now and you will be facing a whole new world of challenges along with amazing rewards.

Staying the ordinary course or walking the radical course, the choice is yours. It always has been.

Both decisions can and do serve you well at different stages of your life and what matters the most is to be honest and transparent with yourself about what you are willing to do and what choices you are willing - and not willing - to make. Denial, blaming others, and feeling jaded or cynical are indications of alarm and maybe a time to re-consider the state of things. Change can happen when and only when you are ready and not a minute sooner. And until it does, tell yourself the truth about everything. The lying business just gets old after a while.

Big decisions of life take guts and it is very, very hard to let go and take a risk; it is terrifying to give up security and constant cash flow among other things just to dive into the unknown. In fact, one may argue that it is even - shall we say - stupid (gasp!), the opposite of smart.

Nah. Nothing stupid about following your heart at any expense whatsoever! Sweet freedom awaits and the freedom to pursue your heart’s desires and to build on your passions is not over-rated.

The certainty that life cannot be long, and the probability that it will be much shorter than nature allows, ought to awaken every man to the active prosecution of whatever he is desirous to perform.

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