Melody Rostami grew up knowing that she was supposed to have children. She never asked herself why she wanted them in the first place. When she spoke to her husband about it, he asked her why, and she barely knew any other answer than the ones she had learned growing up.

Not Having Kids, and Loving It is an articulately created and beautifully penned down book by Melody Rostami that talks about parenthood, gender stereotypes, and the truth behind why women and couples are determined to have children. The book focuses on several things that include responsibilities that come with parenthood, the troubles of parenting, and the motivation behind becoming parents.

One of the most notable things that she discusses in her book is the several myths about parenthood that everyone grew up with and how they aren’t even slightly true. Her book helps several women overcome these myths with the help of her insightful words. Let’s look at the seven overwhelming myths about parenthood that Melody so gracefully debunks with her knowledge and experiences.

1. Kids are a source of joy: Most women grow up believing that when they have kids, their family will be completed, and they will find the utmost happiness in parenthood.

2. Women exist to bear children: Melody puts all her focus on debunking these myths, stating how women are more than just reproductive organs and childbearing entities.

3. Having Children is Exercising Your Right to Production: The age-old notion that women exist to reproduce, have children, and lead fulfilling lives makes it appear as if women have a right to produce. However, the truth is that women can do whatever they wish to do, even if it means choosing a child-free life.

4. Procreation is the ultimate fulfillment: Melody sheds light on how once you have given birth, life will be uprooted, chaotic, and overwhelming instead of being fulfilling for several mothers.

5. Child-free women are selfish: Melody reinstates that choosing your career over a large family does not mean that women are selfish.

6. Motherhood is the most important job for a woman: Women excelled at careers that only men dominated until a few decades. They are more than just child birthing organs.

7. Parenthood is the ultimate investment: People are made to believe that having children means securing a future. However, it’s ridiculous to expect your child to take care of you instead of being invested in their own lives.

For more information about parenthood, gender stereotypes, and how to redefine life itself, read Melody Rostami’s Not Having Kids, and Loving it!